Oh where do I even start!
I love my husband, like I really love that guy! He drives me insane but I love him to pieces!
Do you as a woman feel yourself saying... I NEED A BREAK!! Generally when you are just really having a bad day and you are just over it.
(Don't get me wrong, I do get breaks from time to time. But having a 3 month old breast feeding little bubba my free time has been limited lately.)
I've realised, I don't need a break, I just need to be a man for a little bit and I will feel good as new!
I am not saying Jared doesn't help me out, he does, majority of the time! But he sometimes lacks in consistency... and that's ok!
Lets just have a quick overview of my day in a nutshell... then we'll go over Jareds!
Cassie's weekday mornings: Get's up with my alarm at 7:15am or Charlie, whichever goes off first. Wakes up four children! This in itself can be a huge task. Charlie and Franks wake up happy every morning. Charlie is beaming the minute I look in his bassinet! Warms my heart and really I need it to prepare me for waking up the girls. If Callie and Lucie have had their required 12 hours sleep wake ups can be fairly pleasant. If these two little munchkins have not had their required 12 hours sleep... I would prefer not to wake them! If wake up time with Callie and Lucie doesn't start well the morning is normally pretty crap! Haha... true story!
It's then breakfast for four children. Boob for one, food for the other three. Generally cereal but can be a sandwich, yoghurt or fruit depending on how said children are feeling and I really can't be bothered picking fights that early in the morning. As long as they have food in their belly's before we leave the house I am happy!
We then get dressed for the day, this can take 5 minutes.. or 30 minutes. Again depending on the amount of sleep from the night before. Charlie is normally super quick, unless he pees during a nappy change! Seriously that kid has peed in his own face twice now! If he does give himself a morning shower then getting him dressed entails a bath first. Lucie is generally pretty happy to get dressed unless she is tired or Callie and Frankie have picked on her, then it takes a little longer. Franks is great, as long as the TV isn't on. Then I have to ask him about 50 times and turn the TV off so he can concentrate on the task at hand. Callie if in a good mood is quick. I normally help her get her tights on and she does the rest. If Callie is not in a good mood... well we generally have tears over her sock seam not lining up with her toes. Her undies not sitting properly, her hair clip digging into her, her shoes are suddenly too tight (funny, they fit fine yesterday and will tomorrow). Or she doesn't want to get dressed, cause school is stupid and why can't she stay home?!
So while the kids are eating breakfast and getting dressed, I run around like a mad woman... Making four beds, making three lunchboxes up, cleaning up after breakfast, putting away jammies. Dressing myself whilst helping the older three get dressed. Doing the girls hair, making sure their teeth are brushed. Breaking up any fights that may happen. Putting on a face and making myself look respectable whilst trying to keep an eye on the time to make sure we're not late.
8:20 comes, I ask everyone to get in the car. Children seem to have become deaf overnight... oh wait no they've always been deaf to my voice. I end up yelling... "Get in the bloody car!" Callie tells me off for swearing, the kids fight over who gets to get in the car first and everyone leaves their bags on the bench and expect the pack horse will get them.
I get in the car, start to reverse and realise I haven't eaten breaky and didn't feed the dog. So race back in to feed the dog and grab a banana on the way out.
Drop Frankie and Callie off and go about my day!
Jared's weekday morning: Wakes up, eats breakfast, sits on the toilet for half an hour. Get's dressed, comes in and kisses me goodbye. Off he goes to work.
Cassie's day: Can be anything from, two or three children in tow whilst doing groceries, cleaning, washing, Scentsy orders, play dates and appointments. Normally forget's to eat lunch or eats it around 2-3pm when tummy starts to growl.
Jared's day: What ever the boss asks and eating a hot meal prepared by yours truly for lunch.
Cassie's weekday after school/night time: Picks up the kids from school, comes home, more washing or folding. Meal prep, cooks dinner, fights with children to eat the dinner. Repeatedly tells children to eat their dinner, cleans up any spills or mess. Cleans up the kitchen, packs the dishwasher, runs the childrens bath, baths children, gets children in jammies and ready for bed. Makes sure childrens teeth are brushed. Mops up the bathroom after the bath and wipes down the bathroom as children seem to think it's great to splash water EVERYWHERE. If children aren't ready for bed before 7:30 then put's all four children to bed. Once children are asleep... Washing, folding, prepares for day ahead, packs Jared's lunch, has a little time to herself. Goes to bed at 11ish pm. Get's woken up anywhere between 3-5 times by four children for various reasons... Nightmares, wanting a feed, can't find their hairband, peed the bed... and nearly anything else you can think of!
Jared's weekday after school/night time: Comes home, plays on the computer, sometimes helps Callie with homework, sometimes plays games outside with the kids. Eats dinner, sometimes baths Charlie, sometimes helps Cassie with bathing kids. Is known from time to time to sit on the couch and play on ones phone whilst Cassie does all the above mentioned... if he is tired! Will put older two to sleep if they are ready for bed before 7:30pm. Goes to bed around 8pm. (Get's up really early, so don't blame the guy). Get's woken up once by a child getting in the bed, goes and sleeps soundly in one of the kids beds till morning.
When getting ready for a family outing... Cassie gets herself plus four children dressed and ready to go. Jared gets himself dressed, sit's on the toilet for half an hour then complains that Cassie takes so long to get ready and we are always late...
Seriously what is with men sitting on the toilet for so long?!
So what would happen if I decided to sit on the couch and play on my phone whenever I felt like it?
Hmmmm... nothing!
Haha in all honesty Jared can be great, amazing even! But the consistency is sometimes lacking...
Now I could feel like I am a hard done by woman and hate on him etc... but this was the life I chose. I like a clean house, I like my washing up to date, I like to have a routine with four children as it's easier and the kids know what to expect. I know that all the above things need to be done on a daily basis so I do them. I choose to show up every morning and do what needs to be done, but sometimes it's fun to compare a "typical" mum's morning and night with a mans...
And... Everynow and then I would love to have a "Man's Day" or week... Whichever! I am not fussy.
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